Stop. Check. Choose. Record.
A card for the moments when a message or cancelled visit makes you want to fire back.
Free printable kit
Is your child pulling away from you?
When a child becomes cold, distant or reluctant to see you, every instinct says explain, correct, confront. The Steady Parent Kit gives you five practical tools to stay calm, keep your child out of the conflict and keep the door open.
Children don't return to arguments. They return to safety.
Get the Steady Parent Kit
Five free, printable tools to help you stay calm, keep your child out of the conflict and keep the door open.
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What's in the kit
Six printable pages you can keep on your phone, fridge or in your wallet.
Your Permission Message
The simple words that help lift the loyalty trap your child may be caught in.
The Neutral Phrase List
What to say when your child repeats something untrue or hurtful, without starting an argument you can't win.
The Safe Parent Checklist
Read it before every visit or call: what to do, what to avoid, and how to end well.
Your Support Map
Who to call and when, including Australian support numbers to save in your phone.
Calm, not combat
Many parents in this situation try to explain the truth, correct their child or confront the other parent. It's completely understandable, and it usually makes things worse. These tools are built on a different idea: your steadiness, repeated over time, is what keeps the door open.
They're useful whatever is behind the distance, whether it's influence, high conflict, anxiety or normal growing up.
From the Kilo 4 Delta course Parental Alienation: Understanding, Identifying and Responding Without Destroying Outcomes. Calm, practical education for Australian parents and professionals.
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